Reclaiming Your Sexuality

Our Sexuality and the Power of the Lure!

First and foremost, I want to set the records straight by saying that what we call love
is nothing but our own perception of what we want to feel.  We can then say that we
live in a lie and put ourselves in harms way by allowing deception to play a leading
role in our everyday lives.  This can also be called “drama”.  And as we know there
are plenty of drama queens to go around.  

Having said that let us move towards understanding what we do to ourselves when:

•        We allow deception to be play part of our every day lives
•        And then we keep on making the same choices over and over again, expecting
different results, which by the way is the true definition of insanity.

That takes us to our alternatives; which are:

•        Identifying and understanding our strength and weaknesses
•        And, understand and  knowing what we really feel and be okay with it

For what seems an eternity, we the humans that occupy space on Mother Earth’s
School have wasted priceless energy on what we call falling in and out of love.  The
reason why I know this so well is because I am one of those who have studied the
subject up close and personal.  First of all I do not have any kind of issues with men
or with love; is a matter of fact I am a firm believer that we (men and woman) need
the opposite sex for its polarity.  


However, I do have an issue with the energy that is been wasted on figuring out if
what we feel is love or is it because of a flitting feeling that we think we are.  That
takes me to the ladies of the species that throughout time have learned to play the
game so well.  Is a matter of fact we even help each other by telling the other one what
works and what does not. In other words we tell each other more deception, which can
only lead to more deception.

I am not here to advocate celibacy, as a matter of fact what I do hope after all is said
and done that each of us see ourselves as healthy humans who are not afraid to love
their partner, deeply and fondly and are willing to experience first hand all the
emotions that having a healthy relationship can bring.  But in order to do this we most
let go of any and all excess baggage that we as individual have brought upon
ourselves before we can be joined at the hips with our unsuspected better half.

As a woman I would like to say that there is no perfect woman unless she is in love,
deeply and truly in love.  The problem is that when something goes wrong (and we
know it will) we have the tendency of forgetting that we are just over reacting,
perhaps even hormonal and as the givers of life we are all powerful and can put
everything back into perspective.   

As givers of life we are the co-creators of the energy level in our lives, our homes and
yes ladies our children’s lives as well as our mate’s.  It is time to take back the
leading role that is rightly ours and that for years has been taken away by left-minded
brains not knowing what they are doing or what they are talking about.  While it is
true that more and more men are stepping up to the plate and are more in touch with
their feminine side, amazingly enough, we the women are losing ours.  My question is
when did we lose it and why are we so quick to give it up?  

While it is true that men are getting in touch with their feminine side this does not
equate to us letting them have it all, for true love comes from the heart that knows that
it can trust itself as well as others and if we are not in touch with whom we are (at
what ever step of the way this might be) we are simply not being ourselves so we might
as well be tossed aside like empty vessels.  

Is this the way we want to be remembered by our daughters?  Is this what we are
leaving as our collective legacy to the other females that are coming after us?  To
think of how many woman have fought so valiantly for us to have a right to have a
voice, to have the right to vote, to have a choice in all arenas, to be able to get better
pay in the workplace.  And here we are ready to give it all up for a quick feel good day
at the spa.

Mind you, there is nothing wrong with a day at the spa, as a matter of fact I love
going to them myself and perhaps I don’t go as much as I should.  But one thing is to
go to a spa to release tension or just to feel good about yourself and another thing is
when this becomes a status quo symbol.  All we hear of late is how many women
submit themselves under the knife in order to obtain a better figure.  Is this what it
has come down to?

My question is what was wrong with the way you looked before?  And what is so
dreadful about you that you need to change?  Cosmetic surgery should be left for and
performed on those cases that warrant it not those that don’t.  Think that as you allow
yourself to be drawn into the abyss of this collective dilemma you are a part of the
negative energy associated with it.  Think of what the doctors who perform these
operations are about.  Pure ego!  And this is what you’ve become, no more and no less.

So instead of allowing ourselves to be more creative we have learned to be craftier in
lying about who we really are.  By the way, the reason why I say “we” is because I
happen to know that we are interconnected.  Knowing this also helps me to see that
what one does affect the whole.  So if one of us is doing what is so apparent of no
value to our soul, “we” the silent majority are in the same abyss as the one going
under the knife for egoistical reasons and illogical reasoning.

Some women say that they go under the knife to make changes in their physic to
satisfy the man they are with.  I am astonished at the ghoul it takes to put all of us in
harms way for a man that might leave this hallow woman anyway and in the meantime
is giving all of us a bad name.  But these are your bodies and your lives so go ahead
and put yourself in harms way for the man that eventually with grow uninterested for
you.  I can see the tears running down your face as you claim that you did it all for
him.  

Is it wrong that men want us to look good?  Of course not, there is nothing wrong with
any of it.  Everything under the sun is for us to enjoy and do.  Or else why would it be
there to begin with?  But the only question is:  Why is there a need to change the outer
when only the inner has true power and substance?   

Why change for a man?  If anything why don’t you change for yourself?  Why not feel
good about who you are on the inside?  I can assure you that once you do, there will
be no need to change anything on the outer and anyone who should ask you to do so
you will know that they do not have your best interest in mind and for sure he does not
love you for the woman you are.

So, based on our society hold on the mundane, we can say that our first form of
deception in our relationships is visual in nature.  We are attracted to what we see
and all we know is that we’ve got to have it.  It does not matter that we don’t know
this person from a hole on the wall.  For all we know he could be an axe murderer.  
But unfortunately for this unsuspecting male our hormones are raging and we will
stop at nothing until we have him were we want him…. and then, after the hormones
are back in check we simply forget that we wanted him, and that we went after him.

This brings me to a very good point.  Have you ever realized that we, the females of
the specie are the doers of it all?  We go after the guys with a passion, or so we think.  
We stop at nothing to have him for ourselves.  And then when we do, we lose interest.  
So my question is; is this love or a female’s way of controlling the other chickens in
the coop?  Could it be that we simple have to have something we see and think we like
and need, and dare call it love for our ego’s sake?

Poor guys, they don’t know whether they are coming or going.  The drama we put
them through.  The unnecessary fights we cause and create to get our way when all we’
d have to do is speak clearly and declare our intensions.  You see the key element that
is missing from our relationship is honesty.  Do you know what our intentions are?  
Do you even know what you want or even better what you feel?   While it is true that
some guys out there are womanizers I am inclined to believe that these are not the
ones that we are talking about here.  

I, for one would not go out with a womanizer.  Then if that was to be true how come I
married one of them?  This is not something that I am either proud of or judge.  This
is as much a part of me as the air I breathe.  But one thing that I do know about myself
is my need to be honest about who I am and what I feel.  I have discovered that when I
am honest with myself about my feelings and know what my intension are everything
becomes very clear and know exactly what needs to be done.  This is what people call
miracles; so we can say that we are the miracle workers.

Something else women do so well is judge.  We judge ourselves; we judge those we
call our friends and even the ones we love.  How do you go from saying I love you, to I
hate you in the same body, moments later because of a disagreement?  Here we are
the Goddesses of the world being our worse enemies.  No wonder the guys don’t know
which end is up!  We are sisters and together we could change the course of our
world, but not if we don’t know how to fix our life.  

Ladies let’s get real; the problem that we are facing is basic.  It starts by seeing life
as something wonderful and not something we most endure.  As I see it Mother Nature
does not need our approval or opinion to make it rain.  She knows what needs to be
done and does it.  We on the other hand are in constant need of approval from the
outside sources that only help to keep us from ever reaching our goals.  Don’t you
know that analyzing paralyses?  

And as far as sex is concerned Mother Nature has it down packed.  Our true nature is
simple, uncomplicated and logical.  Our minds however has taken a nose dive and in
dire need of repairs. What I don’t understand is why if when we are hungry we eat,
when we are thirsty we drink water, and when we are tired we rest, why is having sex
so wrongly labeled?  Is sex not a bodily function?  Is sex not something enjoyable?  
Then why give it the connotations that it does not have.  Could it be that our
perception is tainted in this regard?  

Many years ago a wise man said; “there is nothing right or wrong but thinking it
makes it so”.  I for one tend to agree with Shakespeare whole heartedly for there is
nothing more pitiful than those who are sexuality frustrated; and if you doubt that we
are take a good hard look.  In my years of practice as both spiritual healer and
spiritual counselor I’ve come across many people who have come to see me in search
of answers; as to why they thought of themselves as sexual victim or sexual predators,
when in reality neither case was true.  However, after careful observation I have
ascertained that the majority of the people walking the face of the world are sexuality
frustrated and fear is the fuel on which it runs.

We live in a society that is full of guilt and shame without realizing that guilt is what
we do but shame is what we are.  While guilt is debilitating, shame goes to the soul
and impairs our connection.  How if you think of yourself not worthy can you ever find
peace and joy in anything you do?  And if sex has a bad connotation how can it be
enjoyed?

In reality we should be trying to learn more about who we really are so that we can be
in harmony with our nature.  You see, I happen to know that every relationship we
have ever had or will ever have is about ourselves.  It has never had anything to do
with anyone else. The reason for this is that every relationship is based on our
perception and expectation.  So if this is a true statement how can anyone else be
responsible for our happiness or our unhappiness?

Have you not seen yet that women are using sex as a tool or weapon by which to lure
men into their spider’s web?  Shame on you!  How can something so wonderful and
intimate be categorize as anything else but what it is?  No wonder we are sexually
frustrated.  Is a matter of fact, even if you are having sex if these are your methods to
get your way you are still sexually frustrated.  There are women who have not have
sex for years because to them it has a bad connotation, this we understand, don’t like
but understand, but what is your excuse?

For instance, we have found a way to move out of the clan mentality and have moved
to suburbia.  We drive nice cars and our wardrobe is up to snuff.  Nothing wrong with
that except we are sexuality deprived.  In our efforts to compete with the Johnson’s we
have cut ourselves too thinly and what is of importance is kept at a distance thinking
that perhaps later we can catch up.

Later we find that our husbands are running around and we dare call him all sorts of
names when in reality we drove them out.  Ladies guys are in a relationship with a
woman to have a woman, and they stay with that woman based on how she makes him
feel not how nice she keeps the house.  They have no idea about anything that we want
and trying to change them is like asking a lion to go after the catch.  It’s just not their
thing!  

We can try to think that we are more evolved than men are all we want, but as long as
you like the male of the specie and you happen to be a female, you might as well get
with the program and come out of the hole that you carved for yourself because life is
happening right now and the last time I checked, this is not a dress rehearsal and its
called “Your Life”


Rev. Rina A González

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Reclaiming Your Sexuality